After almost 15 years, I’m finally free of my emotionally abusive marriage. Friday, at 9:30 am, the judge here in Wake County, North Carolina granted me my divorce. And just like that, it’s final. It’s over. Finally.
I’m not completely rid of him, since we have a child together and joint legal custody, but Dynamo’s spending less time with his dad (by his own choice) and more time with me and Jay. Jay and I have been dating for slightly over a year now, though we’ve been friends since I first moved to North Carolina in 2003. And now that my divorce is final, I can also share some other news — Jay and I are engaged to be married. We haven’t set a date yet, but it’s not going to be anything fancy. Sometime toward the end of the year, we’re going down to the courthouse and have a justice of the peace do the honors. Neither of us feels the need for a large ceremony. Been there, done that.
So now I find myself single and engaged 
. My ex and I’ve been separated for three years, so I’m not rushing from one relationship into another. In fact, the main reason Jay and I’ve been dating for only a year is that I wanted to make sure I wasn’t just coming to him off the rebound. He’s everything my ex is not and I wanted to make sure that wasn’t the sole reason I was attracted to him.
It’s odd. Sometimes you can know someone for a while and then suddenly turn around and see them in a whole new light.
Congrats! I am very happy for you. My husband and I are doing pretty well since we reunited after almost getting divorced almost 2 months ago. I wish you every happiness. Post some photos of the wedding after the fact. Big or not, it’s a celebration and we’d like to share it with you!
I’m high-fiving the ‘puter screen for you – congrats! I remember the day my own divorce was final and I totally hear you. I didn’t have to appear, just got a notice in the mail. Felt really surreal…
And like you, I’m also engaged – but I have been for almost 8 years, LOL. Kinda awful for both of us the first time around and we’re really not in any hurry (obviously!).
Wishing you, Jay and Dynamo the absolute best
WOO HOO!
Congragulations, and good job taking your time and waiting to be comfortable in the relationship. Sending you lots of Karma..
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Congratulations!
Thanks everyone for your warm thoughts. It’s been a very long haul and now that it’s over, I’m still trying to recover my energy. My body’s reminding me that you don’t recover from a 15 year relationship overnight.
Woot! Congratulations – it’s been a long haul for you, hasn’t it? Best of luck to you and Jay.